Ego

आपके मूड को कौन नियंत्रित करता है?
आपके मूड को कौन नियंत्रित करता है?
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हमारा मिजाज हमेशा दूसरों और परिस्थितियों पर निर्भर करता है। नतीजे आपकी उम्मीदों के मुताबिक नहीं रहे। इसलिए अब आपको मनोबल बढ़ाने वाले किसी प्रेरक वक्ता की ज़रूरत है। जैसे ही वह व्यक्ति चला जाता है, आपकी ऊर्जा भी थम जाती है। लेकिन जीने का एक और तरीका भी है। अपने भीतर गहराई में, मुझे एक ऐसा बिंदु मिलता है जिसे कोई बाहरी परिस्थिति छू नहीं सकती। जो कुछ भी होता है, वह सतह पर ही घटित होता है। वह स्थिर, उदासीन और तटस्थ बना रहता है। तब आप सचमुच स्वतंत्र होते हैं।
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Questioner(Q): What is the process of clarity? Is it just listening with immersion and no resistance? What is Truth? How we decide it?

Acharya Prashant (AP): Listening without effort, plus if there is Truth in what you hear, there is change and transformation, and that Truth becomes the master. We

The madness called man || Acharya Prashant, on Guru Kabir Saheb (2018)
The madness called man || Acharya Prashant, on Guru Kabir Saheb (2018)
8 min

How do you, asks the chief of police, patrol a city, where the butcher shops are guarded by vultures, where bulls get pregnant, cows are barren, and calves give milk three times a day, where mice are the boatmen, and tomcats row the boats, where frogs keep snakes as watchdogs,

Top reason people fail  || Neem Candies
Top reason people fail || Neem Candies
1 min

“I will beat him!”

“I will destroy her!”

“Did you just insult me? Did you?”

Four hours forty-eight minutes of deep intellectual perspiration!

“Did she? Did she not?”

Have some mercy upon yourself. Learn to ignore, please. Bypass the small issues. Learn to ignore the small for the big, would

Playing the victim card? || Neem Candies
Playing the victim card? || Neem Candies
1 min

Just as the ego loves to take credit, it also loves to play the victim.

If something good has happened, “I did it!”

If something bad happened, “It happened to me.”

“Good things I do, bad things happen to me”—this is astounding.

Playing the victim is a favorite pastime of

Wish for immortality gone wrong || Neem Candies
Wish for immortality gone wrong || Neem Candies
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There was this king of the demons; his name was Hiranyakashyupa. The king worked really hard. He kept austerities, he forced even God to come down and bless him. So, it would have required a very special effort. But then, what did he want from God? Nothing but the extension

The deeply hidden fear holding you down || Neem Candies
The deeply hidden fear holding you down || Neem Candies
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You are so powerful actually that you are scared of yourself.

There are three ‘you’s in that statement. The first two refer to the small self or the ego. The third one refers to the best that you can be, the Great Self, the Truth—classically, the Ātman. And classically

Ego fears joy || Neem Candies
Ego fears joy || Neem Candies
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Several people dislike their few glimpses of joy. They hold themselves accountable, they hold themselves guilty for having tasted even a few drops of joy, because joy is not a socially sanctioned kind of happiness. Joy is deep, disruptive, rebellious. It takes you far away from everything into yourself. It

Why am I angry for no reason? || Neem Candies
Why am I angry for no reason? || Neem Candies
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रूप की रानी || नीम लड्डू
रूप की रानी || नीम लड्डू
2 min

स्त्री चूँकि गर्भ रखती है तो प्रकृति ने ही उसे शरीर के प्रति बड़ा संवेदनशील बना दिया है। वो बार-बार अपने शरीर को देखती रहती है क्योंकि उसको एक बहुत महीन काम करना है, डेलिकेट काम; उस काम में अगर ज़रा भी गड़बड़ हो गई, इंफेक्शन हो सकता है, कुछ

मुफ़्त का पैसा रास नहीं आएगा! || नीम लड्डू
मुफ़्त का पैसा रास नहीं आएगा! || नीम लड्डू
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जब सड़क पर निकलो न तो अपनी कमियाँ पता चलती हैं। जो व्यक्ति घर में ही बैठ गया वो बड़ा दम्भी, घमंडी, अहंकारी हो जाता है क्योंकि उसे अपनी कमियों का पता भी नहीं होता। अकसर गृहिणियों की अकड़ बिलकुल लाजवाब होती है। “मैं ही बेग़म हूँ, मैं ही रानी

ब्लॉक कर दिया? || नीम लड्डू
ब्लॉक कर दिया? || नीम लड्डू
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कभी किसी से बड़ी नफ़रत उठे तो मैं एक सूत्र बता देता हूँ – अपनी नफ़रत को और अपने अहंकार को थोड़ी देर के लिए किनारे रख कर उससे 1 घण्टे बात कर लेना, फिर नफ़रत कर नहीं पाओगे और ज़्यादा। इसलिए जिन्हें नफ़रत क़ायम रखनी होती है, पहला काम

Not getting what you want? || Neem Candies
Not getting what you want? || Neem Candies
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You are actually so powerful that you are scared of yourself. The ego doesn’t want to give up. That’s what the scare is all about, because betterment of the ego is nothing but the reduction of the ego. Who wants to reduce?

We all want to accumulate. We all want

दस चढ़े थे नाव पर, नौ ही क्यों उतरे? || नीम लड्डू
दस चढ़े थे नाव पर, नौ ही क्यों उतरे? || नीम लड्डू
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वो कहानी याद है न कि दस जने उतरे हैं पीये हुए, किससे? एक नाव से उतरे हैं, ठीक है? अब वो गिनना चाहते हैं कि कोई एक रास्ते में टपक तो नहीं गया था नदी में। तो वो सब गिनना शुरू करते हैं, तो गिन रहे हैं कि भैया

The ‘be yourself’ brigade || Neem Candies
The ‘be yourself’ brigade || Neem Candies
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There is this new bunch of spiritual hoodlums who come up and say, “Be yourself. Accept yourself as you are.” And who are you? Somebody fundamentally dangerous to yourself. We said the ego is its own bleeding wound, and you are being told, “Be yourself, remain the wound. Remain the

Are you living rightly? || Neem Candies
Are you living rightly? || Neem Candies
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Ask yourself this one question: The way I am living, is it reducing my inner darkness? This question, only this question, determines whether you are living rightly.

It doesn’t matter how well fed you are, how well clothed you are, how well monied you are, how reputed, how respectable you

Complete within, you can live and die || Neem Candies
Complete within, you can live and die || Neem Candies
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The ego is nothing but the meanings and significances you attach to the world. You attach all that to the world because of a flawed notion of yourself. You look at stuff, and that stuff starts having value or meaning principally because you think you lack that value or meaning

The need for problems || Neem Candies
The need for problems || Neem Candies
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The ego does not live for the Truth; it lives for its own survival. And to live for one’s survival makes any sense only in the presence of challenges to survival. If there are no challenges to survival, whose survival are you protecting and living for?

Therefore, if you are

Remember that great victory? || Neem Candies
Remember that great victory? || Neem Candies
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The ego will forget 999 defeats and remember that one game when it was able to win a game in spite of being 0-9 down. The memory of that one game keeps your false confidence alive.

Then you repeatedly keep slipping to 0-9 positions.

It is 0-3; you say, “Not

Can you spot the runaway ego? || Neem Candies
Can you spot the runaway ego? || Neem Candies
1 min

A leader is seeking satisfaction by looking at the twenty thousand bodies gathered to listen to him. Where is he getting his satisfaction from? Twenty thousand bodies. This is sexual activity, but you will not call it as sex. You will say, “Oh, it is just a leader addressing an

Understand women: change your mind about women || Neem Candies
Understand women: change your mind about women || Neem Candies
1 min

We cannot blame somebody for history. History is determined not merely by the fact that there are two genders; there’s so much else that’s involved, a lot of freak accidents. Do not discount the possibility that you can have—and we do have, as a matter of fact—very, very healthy women,

You are extremely smart || Neem Candies
You are extremely smart || Neem Candies
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When it comes to all the nonsense, see how you succeed, don’t you? You want to go and satisfy your lust, and see how you find out ways, don’t you? Like a rat, you find a way into the house; then you know where the hole is. And if the

Holika was a smart woman || Neem Candies
Holika was a smart woman || Neem Candies
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Yes, Holika… Not to miss out on her. A smart woman, no? A smart woman with extraordinary powers. And it’s her smartness that brought her to flames. That’s a very important message to be remembered. The more smart you are, the more clever you are, the more are the chances

Such people never change ||Neem Candies
Such people never change ||Neem Candies
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Things that are absolutely rubbish keep on occupying important places in our minds and, therefore, in our lives. Stuff that you would never value at all if you were not so heavily conditioned comes to become the center of your life. And when you are asked, “But why is this

Aghori’s way of spirituality ||Neem Candies
Aghori’s way of spirituality ||Neem Candies
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Ego is a pleasure seeker. The ego wants to talk of life and its celebrations and beauties and fragrances. The Aghori says, “The ego wants to forget death, and I keep reminding the ego of death.”

He reminds the ego of death in the most ruthless way possible. He would

Why do people show off? || Neem Candies
Why do people show off? || Neem Candies
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You go to a shop, and how do you buy clothes? Good to touch, good to wear, and should appear expensive, shouldn’t appear cheap. This is what you do when you want to select a piece of cloth. And what would you do when you would want to select a

The three types of ego || On Vivekachudamani (2018)
The three types of ego || On Vivekachudamani (2018)
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Questioner (Q): All reflections are coming from my limited mind. And when you shower pure nectar in every session, it seems my words would just pollute everything. I do acknowledge that I am related or connected to money, family, position, etc. and for me, Dṛṣṭā or Ātman is merely a

We exist, and we do not || NIT Trichy (2021)
We exist, and we do not || NIT Trichy (2021)
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Questioner (Q): Sir, it is pretty evident that I exist and you exist, but you have also stated that the ego does not exist. So, when someone calls you Acharya Prashant and you reply, isn’t that an identification which reflects an ego?

Acharya Prashant (AP): It is a thing that

प्रेम – अहम् से आगे || (2018)
प्रेम – अहम् से आगे || (2018)
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प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, आपने जैसे कहा था कि “जब कोई पैदा होता है, तो वो वृत्तियों और विकारों के साथ पैदा होता है।” तो छोटे बच्चे इतने खुश क्यों मालूम पड़ते हैं?

आचार्य प्रशांत: जिनके पास बच्चे हों, उनसे पूछो ज़रा!

ये सवाल कोई छड़ा (कुँवारा) ही पूछ सकता है,

हँसते हुए मुखौटे || (2016)
हँसते हुए मुखौटे || (2016)
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आचार्य प्रशांत: एक आदमी था बड़ा भुल्लकड़। कोई एक चीज़ उसके साथ रहती थी, वो थी उसकी विस्मृतिशीलता। भूलता गया, भूलता गया, और एक दिन पाता है कि वो अपनी हँसी भी भूल गया; भूल ही गया कि हँसना कैसे है।

तो गया एक विशेषज्ञ के पास, कि, “हँसना भूल

अहंकार और सत्य में क्या अंतर है? || (2016)
अहंकार और सत्य में क्या अंतर है? || (2016)
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प्रश्नकर्ता: इगो (अहंकार) में और सत्य में क्या अंतर है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: जितने अंतर हैं वह सब इगो में ही हैं। अंतर कुछ कर लो, समानताएँ और अंतर यह सब मानसिक परिकल्पनाएँ हैं। आत्मा में ना कोई भेद होता है, ना अभेद होता है। तुम अगर पूछोगे कि, "अहंकार और

हर चेहरा एक मुखौटा || (2014)
हर चेहरा एक मुखौटा || (2014)
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आचार्य प्रशांत: तो सवाल है कि एक फ़िल्म आई थी 'द मास्क' के नाम से। उसमें जो मुख्य चरित्र था उसे एक मास्क मिल जाता है, एक मुखौटा मिल जाता है। उस मुखौटे के मिलने से उसे दुनियाभर की तमाम लड़ाइयों में जीत मिलने लग जाती है, शोहरत

अहंकार क्या है, और उसका शरीर से क्या सम्बन्ध है? || (2018)
अहंकार क्या है, और उसका शरीर से क्या सम्बन्ध है? || (2018)
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आचार्य प्रशांत: ईगो (अहंकार) का सांकेतिक, शाब्दिक, आध्यात्मिक सब एक ही अर्थ होता है – ‘मैं’। ‘मैं’ की भावना को अहम्, ईगो कहते हैं।

प्रश्नकर्ता: तो क्या स्वयं को किसी भी पहचान से परिभाषित करना ही अहम् है?

आचार्य: अपनी हस्ती को अनुभव करना, यही ईगो है। ‘मैं हूँ', इसको

क्या अहम् की कोई सत्ता नहीं? || (2019)
क्या अहम् की कोई सत्ता नहीं? || (2019)
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प्रश्नकर्ता: नागार्जुन कहते हैं कि किसी की सत्ता नहीं है। कर्म, कर्ता, और फल, इसकी लोक व्यवहार की दृष्टि से ही सत्ता है, बाकी निरपेक्ष रूप से इनकी कोई सत्ता नहीं। तो फिर धर्म और अध्यात्म का मतलब क्या है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: जिसके लिए अहं की कोई सत्ता नहीं, उसके

अहंकार का मूल झूठ क्या? || (2018)
अहंकार का मूल झूठ क्या? || (2018)
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प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, हर चीज के अंत में मुझे अहंकार ही दिखता है, ऐसा क्यों?

आचार्य प्रशांत: अहंकार जो आत्मा बना बैठा है। अहंकार में कोई बुराई नहीं है, पैदा हुए हो उसके साथ। या बुराई है भी तो तुम्हारी व्यक्तिगत बुराई नहीं क्योंकि तुमने चुना नहीं था कि मुझे

We know only one God, and that is ego || (2016)
We know only one God, and that is ego || (2016)
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Sufi Story: In the city of Bastan where Bayazid made his home, there lived a very respected and venerable ascetic. He enjoyed Bayazid's circle, though he never became one of his disciples. One day he said to Bayazid, "O Master! For the last thirty years, I have been fasting from

अहम् वृत्ति, और शरीर || (2018)
अहम् वृत्ति, और शरीर || (2018)
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प्रश्नकर्ता: आचार्य जी, जैसे वृत्तियाँ अपना काम करती हैं कि क्रोध आ गया, डर आ गया। अब जैसे मैं यहाँ से बाहर निकला और मेरी लड़ाई हो जाए तो शरीर को तो डर लगता है उलझने में, लड़ाई करने में, और साथ-ही-साथ यह तादात्म्य बना रहता है कि यह 'मेरा'

तुम्हारा अहंकार ही तुम्हारी समस्याओं का कारण || (2016)
तुम्हारा अहंकार ही तुम्हारी समस्याओं का कारण || (2016)
15 min

प्रश्नकर्ता: क्या अहंकार ही हमारी समस्याओं का कारण है?

आचार्य प्रशांत: अहंकार अगर समस्याओं का कारण है, तो उन समस्याओं का अनुभोक्ता कौन है? अहंकार के कारण समस्याएँ हैं, किसको?

तो ये कहना ठीक है कि अहंकार के कारण समस्याएँ होती हैं। पर ये कहना और ज़्यादा ठीक है कि

अहंकार और अनुशासन || (2018)
अहंकार और अनुशासन || (2018)
6 min

प्रश्नकर्ता: अहंकार क्या है और अहंकार से छुटकारा कैसे मिलेगा?

आचार्य प्रशांत: जैसे कह रहे हो न, "मैं सवाल पूछ रहा हूँ मुझे उत्तर जानना है", तो ये जो लगातार 'मैं' की भावना है इसको अहंकार कहते हैं। अहंकार का अर्थ होता है आइ, मैं। दिन रात जिसकी बात

When you pay attention to the partial, the partial burns away
When you pay attention to the partial, the partial burns away
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Questioner (Q): We exist so that timeless can be discovered. Who is it that discovers timeless? If the ego-self, the 'I', is itself a product of time, how is it going to discover the timeless?

Acharya Prashant (AP): What is meant when we say that the ego-self is a product

Finally, only love will liberate the ego
Finally, only love will liberate the ego
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Questioner: Acharya Ji, I have come to understand that reality of for us is entirely dependent on the sensory apparatus that we use. Also you have taught in the ‘Karma Yoga’ session that ‘Aham’ will always demand something and we should give Aham such a big thing that it dissolves

How to overcome the ego?
How to overcome the ego?
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Question: How do I overcome ego?

Acharya Prashant: You do not overcome anything if you do not understand it. You do not overcome anything without understanding it. No problem can be solved if you do not understand the question. Am I right? If you do not understand the question, can

How will I dissolve?
How will I dissolve?
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Questioner: How will I dissolve?

Acharya Prashant: By watching the one who wants to dissolve. (Silence)

Who is the one who wants to dissolve? And why does he want to dissolve? And if he is really serious and honest why has he already not dissolved till now? Surely, there is

Why does one have ego?
Why does one have ego?
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Probing inside, I came Seeking the moon within me: Sifting the chaff from the grain. I went seeking The Like, Alike, Thou art Narayan. Thou art Narayan, then, Why this will-of-the-wisp?

~ Saint Lalleshwari

Question: Acharya Ji, Why do I have ego?

Acharya Prashant: Do not ask why does the

The ego likes suffering
The ego likes suffering
4 min

Questioner (Q): Acharya Ji, Ramana Maharshi talks about ‘transcending and turning inwards'. Who is transcending and who is turning inwards?

Acharya Prashant (AP): The Ego, the I tendency. Whatever advice is given, is always given to the “I” tendency. Because at the center of everything lies this “I” tendency that

Ego and civilization
Ego and civilization
4 min

Acharya Prashant: Deepanshu (Questioner) says, “If everyone drops their ego, there would be no civilization and everybody would be roaming naked in the Jungle.”

We have to understand what is ego and what civilization? What is it that is meant by civilization? Civilization refers to a particular order in living.

An innocent mind can be fooled, but never hurt
An innocent mind can be fooled, but never hurt
7 min

Conversation between Roark and Hopton Stoddard at the end of which Roark agrees to raise the Stoddard Temple: “Roark rubbed the back of his hand against his eyes, helplessly. It was not possible. It simply was not possible. That could not be what the man wanted; not that man. It

पाँच नाम बेहोशी के
पाँच नाम बेहोशी के
7 min

आचार्य प्रशांत: पंचवर्ग क्या है -- जैसे माया के ही पाँच रूपों, पाँच वर्गों की बात की जा रही हो। आत्मा के ऊपर उपाधि बन कर -- अज्ञान, अविद्या या माया सत्य को छुपाए रहती है, ढके, आच्छादित किये रहती है। उसी अज्ञान को पाँच अलग-अलग तरीकों से कहा गया

Games we play
Games we play
20 min

Acharya Prashant (AP): Whenever something is addressed to the ego, whenever a word is delivered to the ego, it is delivered with the intention to take the ego to the Truth. Remember, it is the intention to take the ego to the Truth. Whatsoever is being told to the ego,

Trying to drop the ego?
Trying to drop the ego?
7 min

Questioner 1 (Q1): Dropping the knowledge, is it dropping the method, or is it completely dropping the knowledge?

Acharya Prashant (AP): Dropping the feeling that I already know what is best for me. Would you call knowledge as knowledge, if you are not sure of it? Would you call yourself