Love

I had to unlearn a lot of things, and I am grateful to all the sources—the books, the people and the experiences that helped me unlearn. And I am grateful to that within me that had the courage to unlearn.

A lot of unlearning is needed. I often say you… read_more

I had to unlearn a lot of things, and I am grateful to all the sources—the books, the people and the experiences that helped me unlearn. And I am grateful to that within me that had the courage to unlearn.

A lot of unlearning is needed. I often say you… read_more

Most people never evolve beyond their psychological age of three, four, ten, or twelve years. So they have to be consoled like kids.

If a two-year-old is crying, you cannot talk reason to him, can you? What does a two-year-old need? You pick him up, caress him a little, kiss… read_more

She won’t directly say, “Get me a sari .” Often when they need a sari , they do not say they need a sari ; they say, “Janu (beloved), you do not love me!” And janu understands: she needs a sari .

Similarly, janu does not need to say… read_more

When you meet a person, meet in friendliness, meet in love, meet to share, meet to play, meet to rejoice. That’s right relationship. Don’t meet to sit at that person’s feet. That’s vulgar. You don’t need to sit at anybody’s feet. This head can bow down only in front of… read_more

You are what you want. If you want to change who you are, then you will have to want something radically different. Your destination, your desire decides your constitution. You become what you intend to achieve and be.

If you love the mud, you will become an earthworm. If you… read_more

A fellow who irritates you and keeps your mind agitated, why is he present in your life as a friend? How exactly is he taking care of you if his presence leads to an unsettled mind? What are these tags?

The only definition of a friend is someone who brings… read_more

Love is when you start seeing the deep desire beneath all your superficial desires. Love is when you start seeing what you are really really thirsty for. Superficially, the desires of different people are different. Deeply, we all share one desire.

So, what is it that happens in love? In… read_more

To love is to see that the other is in trouble. To love is to extend a helping hand. Love is not about admiring somebody’s physicality or using someone for some means. Love has to be an exercise in compassion.

Only two kinds of associations are right in this world.… read_more

We need to see a lot of young people traveling on their own. We need to see a lot of young people living all by themselves for very long years, many, many long years. We need to see these things.

And we need to see young people who are much… read_more

I cannot tell you what Bharat is by referring to the etymology of the word. If you ask me what is love, it would be foolish of me to say, “L-O means this, V means this, E means this.” If you ask me what is love, I will wait for… read_more

Women like burly guys—and why do they like burly, big, and muscular guys? Because they are likely to have higher levels of testosterone. Unless you have testosterone, you cannot build muscles; you know that, right? And that is why you cannot build muscles, let’s say, after fifty or sixty. It’s… read_more

To love is to see that the other is in trouble. To love is to extend a helping hand. Love is not about admiring somebody’s physicality, or using someone for some means. Love has to be an exercise in compassion.

So, I often say, when you relate to the other,… read_more

Teach the girls that their body is not an instrument to bear kids. Teach them that their self-worth is not at all linked to their motherhood. Teach them where the real fulfilment of life lies, and teach them that it is not in birthing or breastfeeding.

Teach them creativity. Teach… read_more

We are not talking of the perfect one; we are talking of the higher one, relatively higher. The higher person does exist. First of all, you must become that higher person, and then it is a case of holding hands to rise together, because that’s the shared love. What’s the… read_more

You never want the other person; you want returns from the other person.

When those returns are not forthcoming, have you seen how you shout, how you go breathless, how you panic, how you stamp your feet, how you pull the other’s hair, how you pull out your own hair?… read_more

Love knows on its own. Love needs no instructions. Hence, we are so afraid of it. We cannot control it. We do not know where it would go and what trouble it might lead us into. So, we say, keep your hands off this dangerous thing! Better be in formal… read_more

Whenever you get cheated in love, don’t blame anybody else. Ask yourself, did you not have anything better to do with your life that you went and clinged to a person? I ask you, is he worth being devoted to? Then why do you pick some man, some woman, and… read_more

Love is about giving yourself the highest. When you love somebody, do you want to stop short of giving them the highest possible? Similarly, when you love yourself, would you stop short of giving yourself the highest possible?

The highest possible is not contained in pleasure nor in happiness. Both… read_more

If the two of you could together shout and scratch and bite and tear and break—if all those things could be done together, why not meditate and be loving and compassionate together? Or is companionship only for biting into each other?

So, having been companions, now it is your responsibility… read_more

There is a kind of entrepreneurship that says, start the company, see which sectors are hot and booming, and when you reach a certain stage after n rounds of funding, sell it off and add a few more zeroes to your personal bank balance. That’s one kind of entrepreneurship. It… read_more

When I say that your love has to include even animals and plants and ecologies, do I mean that your love would exclude women, or that a woman’s love will exclude men? Obviously not. But then, this is pathological—sticking to a woman or sticking to a man, inwardly aiming for… read_more

If you start thinking that a man or a woman will bring contentment to you, will bring godliness to your home, then you are going to be severely disappointed.

And that’s why you see disappointed couples. The man was living a forlorn life. The woman was living a spineless life,… read_more

What is it that is keeping beef affordable? It is milk consumption, because it is in circulation.

You see, you have an asset; if the only thing that you can have from it is its flesh, then you will be required to firstly raise it to its maximum weight, and… read_more

Real carnal love, real worldly love, is not about trying to gain something from the other, or trying to bring happiness to the other, trying to exchange pleasures with the other. It is about seeing that the other is so much like you. It is a bit intricate, please understand.… read_more

Love is not about admiring somebody’s physicality, or using someone for some means. Love has to be an exercise in compassion. So, I often say, when you relate to the other, relate either to uplift or to be uplifted.

Only two kinds of associations are right in this world. If… read_more

As long as the relationship is of need, the relationship will remain one of violence. You can never be more violent upon anybody than upon someone you love—so-called love. Because the greater is your love for someone, the greater is your investment in that person. And you invest in someone… read_more

Why did the breakup happen? And if you are you and he is what he is, then won’t the breakup happen again?

Do you know who you are? You are the one who will accept this guy back if he comes to your life.

Do you know who you are?… read_more

What is self-love? Self-love is really possible only when the self is worthy of being loved. For self-love to happen, the petty and divided and confused self has to be elevated to the point where it is clean and shining and expansive and fearless. That is real self-love.

Now you… read_more

The more you will see how deeply conditioned you are, the less surprised you will feel on seeing how deeply conditioned others are. We do not see that we are scripted, trained automatons, so life keeps on throwing surprises at us. When you are in touch with reality, things don’t… read_more

False love is very lucrative, very charming. Oh, there is such a romance around it! But then, that romance is hardly love.

Real love tests. Real love stretches, breaks. Real love is like a sculptor carving a beautiful one out of an unseemly rock. The rock must go through and… read_more

What do you call as beautiful in a woman? Her curvature, her hips, her breasts—all of that just makes her conducive for bearing a child. Exactly that which qualifies her to bear a child is taken as beautiful by you.

So, all that you are looking for is someone who… read_more

One can relate to the other without being psychologically dependent. And that relationship, then, is not of exploitation but of compassion. Now you can really say that you love the other.

If the other exists in your life to serve your needs, then there can be no love. There would… read_more

The quality of your love depends on the quality of your life. Your love affair cannot be a sublime thing if your life is mired in littleness.

We all want our love affairs to be fairytales, and we don’t look at our lives. We are little people—afraid, desirous, ambitious, suspicious.… read_more

Love firstly means total dedication towards the Beloved, and secondly, total identification with the world. First of all, you need total disidentification with the world, because unless you are totally disidentified with the world, how will you identify with Him? And that is why saints have so much compassion for… read_more

If a drunkard were to use the law of attraction, what would he deem suitable to attract to himself? A huge truckload of beer. He would keep fantasizing of beer companies and such things, and maybe that materializes also. And if that materializes, it is even worse for the drunkard,… read_more

Your mind keeps racing—you find that a problem? Next time your mind runs away from the office, you too run away. Don’t say, “Oh, this fickle mind, it can’t rest; it is not spiritual enough!” Great that it is not spiritual enough; great that it is not tolerating rubbish.

Why… read_more

You cannot keep measuring human wellness by human consumption anymore, not possible. You have to train yourself to think in different terms. Your internal model of human wellness has to be very different now; it has to be an internal model.

“Does the fellow have food to eat? Does the… read_more

Do attractive girls actually get more love? I know they get more of attention—sexual attention. Surely a lot of attractive girls try to keep themselves attractive, and even more attractive, in the hope of getting more love. That’s tragic!

Somebody needs to shout it out very loudly, and in the… read_more

Man is not really starving in the stomach. Man is starving in the mind. In fact, man is the only species that is overweight and obese and still thinking about food.

You need money for mental aggrandizement. You need money to feel secure internally. You don’t need money merely to… read_more

A fellow might be doing the worst possible thing to you in the name of love or concern or friendship, and he will keep saying, “But you know, this is my care towards you.” This is not care. You must apply intelligence. Is this love? Is this care? When you… read_more

If you move towards greatness or aspire for it and that hurts the people around you, that only means that the people around you are insistent on remaining small. Further, it also means that the people around you do not love you at all. Not only do they not love… read_more

Man has such great systems of morality, and yet man is a mass murderer. Man has caused thousands of species to get extinct, and they will never come back. Man is causing this very planet to be destroyed in a couple of decades. And man rapes, man kills, man hoards,… read_more

If the two of you could together shout and scratch and bite and tear and break and… If all those things could be done together, why not meditate and be loving and compassionate together? Or is companionship only for biting into each other?

So, having been companions, now it is… read_more

The sexual activity is just like any other activity of man: he is searching for God. He searches for God in ambition. He looks for God in money. He looks for God in fame. He also looks for God in a woman’s body.

But because he is not in touch… read_more

One may say, “I keep feeling lonely, let me get married”; or one may say, “Let me change cities and move to another place where my community or my friends live”; or one may just say, “Let me switch on the television or visit the shopping mall.” One behaves as… read_more

Please concentrate on the aspect of one’s relationship with oneself. Nobody can help you in the entire world if first of all you don’t like or respect or love yourself. What is the point in admiring a great personality if first of all you can not admire yourself? And most… read_more

Is freedom a thought, an idea, a concept? Is love a subject of the brain? All that the brain can have is thoughts, ideas, concepts. Is love a thought, an idea, a concept? If you are saying this, then you must be living a loveless life.

How is it so… read_more