Love

I had to unlearn a lot of things, and I am grateful to all the sources—the books, the people and the experiences that helped me unlearn. And I am grateful to that within me that had the courage to unlearn.

A lot of unlearning is needed. I often say you… read_more

I had to unlearn a lot of things, and I am grateful to all the sources—the books, the people and the experiences that helped me unlearn. And I am grateful to that within me that had the courage to unlearn.

A lot of unlearning is needed. I often say you… read_more

Most people never evolve beyond their psychological age of three, four, ten, or twelve years. So they have to be consoled like kids.

If a two-year-old is crying, you cannot talk reason to him, can you? What does a two-year-old need? You pick him up, caress him a little, kiss… read_more

She won’t directly say, “Get me a sari.” Often when they need a sari, they do not say they need a sari; they say, “Janu (beloved), you do not love me!” And janu understands: she needs a sari.

Similarly, janu does not need to say… read_more

When you meet a person, meet in friendliness, meet in love, meet to share, meet to play, meet to rejoice. That’s right relationship. Don’t meet to sit at that person’s feet. That’s vulgar. You don’t need to sit at anybody’s feet. This head can bow down only in front of… read_more

You are what you want. If you want to change who you are, then you will have to want something radically different. Your destination, your desire decides your constitution. You become what you intend to achieve and be.

If you love the mud, you will become an earthworm. If you… read_more

A fellow who irritates you and keeps your mind agitated, why is he present in your life as a friend? How exactly is he taking care of you if his presence leads to an unsettled mind? What are these tags?

The only definition of a friend is someone who brings… read_more

Love is when you start seeing the deep desire beneath all your superficial desires. Love is when you start seeing what you are really really thirsty for. Superficially, the desires of different people are different. Deeply, we all share one desire.

So, what is it that happens in love? In… read_more

To love is to see that the other is in trouble. To love is to extend a helping hand. Love is not about admiring somebody’s physicality or using someone for some means. Love has to be an exercise in compassion.

Only two kinds of associations are right in this world.… read_more

We need to see a lot of young people traveling on their own. We need to see a lot of young people living all by themselves for very long years, many, many long years. We need to see these things.

And we need to see young people who are much… read_more

I cannot tell you what Bharat is by referring to the etymology of the word. If you ask me what is love, it would be foolish of me to say, “L-O means this, V means this, E means this.” If you ask me what is love, I will wait for… read_more

Women like burly guys—and why do they like burly, big, and muscular guys? Because they are likely to have higher levels of testosterone. Unless you have testosterone, you cannot build muscles; you know that, right? And that is why you cannot build muscles, let’s say, after fifty or sixty. It’s… read_more

To love is to see that the other is in trouble. To love is to extend a helping hand. Love is not about admiring somebody’s physicality, or using someone for some means. Love has to be an exercise in compassion.

So, I often say, when you relate to the other,… read_more

Teach the girls that their body is not an instrument to bear kids. Teach them that their self-worth is not at all linked to their motherhood. Teach them where the real fulfilment of life lies, and teach them that it is not in birthing or breastfeeding.

Teach them creativity. Teach… read_more

We are not talking of the perfect one; we are talking of the higher one, relatively higher. The higher person does exist. First of all, you must become that higher person, and then it is a case of holding hands to rise together, because that’s the shared love. What’s the… read_more

You never want the other person; you want returns from the other person.

When those returns are not forthcoming, have you seen how you shout, how you go breathless, how you panic, how you stamp your feet, how you pull the other’s hair, how you pull out your own hair?… read_more

Love knows on its own. Love needs no instructions. Hence, we are so afraid of it. We cannot control it. We do not know where it would go and what trouble it might lead us into. So, we say, keep your hands off this dangerous thing! Better be in formal… read_more

Whenever you get cheated in love, don’t blame anybody else. Ask yourself, did you not have anything better to do with your life that you went and clinged to a person? I ask you, is he worth being devoted to? Then why do you pick some man, some woman, and… read_more

Love is about giving yourself the highest. When you love somebody, do you want to stop short of giving them the highest possible? Similarly, when you love yourself, would you stop short of giving yourself the highest possible?

The highest possible is not contained in pleasure nor in happiness. Both… read_more

If the two of you could together shout and scratch and bite and tear and break—if all those things could be done together, why not meditate and be loving and compassionate together? Or is companionship only for biting into each other?

So, having been companions, now it is your responsibility… read_more

There is a kind of entrepreneurship that says, start the company, see which sectors are hot and booming, and when you reach a certain stage after n rounds of funding, sell it off and add a few more zeroes to your personal bank balance. That’s one kind of entrepreneurship. It… read_more

When I say that your love has to include even animals and plants and ecologies, do I mean that your love would exclude women, or that a woman’s love will exclude men? Obviously not. But then, this is pathological—sticking to a woman or sticking to a man, inwardly aiming for… read_more

If you start thinking that a man or a woman will bring contentment to you, will bring godliness to your home, then you are going to be severely disappointed.

And that’s why you see disappointed couples. The man was living a forlorn life. The woman was living a spineless life,… read_more

What is it that is keeping beef affordable? It is milk consumption, because it is in circulation.

You see, you have an asset; if the only thing that you can have from it is its flesh, then you will be required to firstly raise it to its maximum weight, and… read_more

Real carnal love, real worldly love, is not about trying to gain something from the other, or trying to bring happiness to the other, trying to exchange pleasures with the other. It is about seeing that the other is so much like you. It is a bit intricate, please understand.… read_more

Love is not about admiring somebody’s physicality, or using someone for some means. Love has to be an exercise in compassion. So, I often say, when you relate to the other, relate either to uplift or to be uplifted.

Only two kinds of associations are right in this world. If… read_more

As long as the relationship is of need, the relationship will remain one of violence. You can never be more violent upon anybody than upon someone you love—so-called love. Because the greater is your love for someone, the greater is your investment in that person. And you invest in someone… read_more

Why did the breakup happen? And if you are you and he is what he is, then won’t the breakup happen again?

Do you know who you are? You are the one who will accept this guy back if he comes to your life.

Do you know who you are?… read_more

What is self-love? Self-love is really possible only when the self is worthy of being loved. For self-love to happen, the petty and divided and confused self has to be elevated to the point where it is clean and shining and expansive and fearless. That is real self-love.

Now you… read_more

लड़का-लड़की पंद्रह साल के हुए नहीं कि माँ-बाप बन सकते हैं, फिर? बहुत अक्ल आ जाएगी उनमें? और फिर जो बच्चा पैदा हो उसको सिखाएँ कि, “यह देवी-देवता हैं, हमने पैदा किया है।“ वह देवी-देवता ने नहीं पैदा किया है, वह पैदा इसलिए हो गया था क्योंकि देवी जी बहकी… read_more

“ओ ले-ले-ले! मेला शोमू कितना स्टुपिड है!" अरे! स्टुपिड (मूर्ख) है तो यह बोलने के लिए भी काहे को रुकी कि शोमू स्टुपिड है? भाग! जान बचाकर भाग। पर शोमू क्यूट ही इसीलिए है क्योंकि वह स्टुपिड है। अजीब बात है! तुमको पता है वह स्टुपिड है पर तुम तब… read_more

The more you will see how deeply conditioned you are, the less surprised you will feel on seeing how deeply conditioned others are. We do not see that we are scripted, trained automatons, so life keeps on throwing surprises at us. When you are in touch with reality, things don’t… read_more

False love is very lucrative, very charming. Oh, there is such a romance around it! But then, that romance is hardly love.

Real love tests. Real love stretches, breaks. Real love is like a sculptor carving a beautiful one out of an unseemly rock. The rock must go through and… read_more

लोग कहते हैं सच्चा प्यार मिलता नहीं, मैं कहता हूँ सच्चा प्यार तुमसे बर्दाश्त होता नहीं। मिल तो आज जाए, झेल लोगे? बड़े अफ़साने लिखे जाते हैं, शायरों की दूकान ही चल रही हैं इसी बात पर कि ‘हम तो बड़े क़ाबिल थे पर कमबख़्त ज़िंदगी ने धोखा दे दिया,… read_more

यह एक बड़ा भ्रम कि जल्दी से शादी कर लो और शादी करने से दूसरा व्यक्ति ज़िम्मेदार हो जाएगा। जो माँ-बाप कहते हैं, “ये बड़ा उद्दण्ड है, लड्डू। गाँव भर में लुढ़कते फिरता है लड्डू। तो लड्डू को ज़िम्मेदार बनाने के लिए लड्डू की शादी कर देते हैं।” घर में… read_more

यह जगत तो लाभ का सौदागर है। वो आप से नहीं प्रेम करता; आपसे जो मिल रहा है उसे से प्रेम करता है। और इस बात का बड़ा कड़वा अनुभव आपको तब होता है जब आप देना बंद कर देते हैं। आप तो यही सोचते रह गए कि उस व्यक्ति… read_more

ये ब्रेकअप होता क्या है? तुम्हें अगर प्रेम है तो क्या तुम तय करके किसी से दूर हो सकते हो? कर कैसे लोगे? ये बात तो हृदय की होती है, आत्मा की होती है। तुम तय थोड़े ही करोगे कि कल से इससे बात नहीं करनी है क्योंकि हमारा ब्रेकअप… read_more

प्रश्नकर्ता: “जाने वो कैसे लोग थे, जिनके प्यार को प्यार मिला।“

आचार्य प्रशांत: वो बहुत अलग लोग थे, तुम्हारे जैसे लोग नहीं थे; 'जाने वो कैसे लोग थे, जिनके प्यार को प्यार मिला, हमने तो जब कलियाँ माँगी तो काँटों का हार मिला।' अरे! तुम ख़ुद बहुत बड़ा काँटा हो!… read_more

What do you call as beautiful in a woman? Her curvature, her hips, her breasts—all of that just makes her conducive for bearing a child. Exactly that which qualifies her to bear a child is taken as beautiful by you.

So, all that you are looking for is someone who… read_more

दुनिया में एक-से-बढ़कर-एक प्रकाशित स्त्रियाँ हुईं हैं, जाओ उन्हें चाहो, बिलकुल उनके प्रेम में पड़ जाओ, न्योछावर हो जाओ उनपर, तुम्हारी ज़िंदगी बन जाएगी। पर तुम ऐसा करते नहीं। ऊँची स्त्रियों से तुम्हें भय लगता है, क्योंकि ऊँची स्त्री के पास जाकर के तुम अपना बौनापन बरक़रार नहीं रख सकते।… read_more

किसी ने आपसे पूछा, “अरे! तुमने मुझे पाँच दिन से फ़ोन नहीं किया, तुम्हें मेरी याद नहीं आयी?” आप कहते हैं, “अगर मैं इसको सच बता दूँ तो इस बेचारे के दिल को चोट लगेगी, ये दुख जाएगा।“ तो आप कहते हैं, “नहीं याद तो बहुत आयी, वो नेटवर्क नहीं… read_more

One can relate to the other without being psychologically dependent. And that relationship, then, is not of exploitation but of compassion. Now you can really say that you love the other.

If the other exists in your life to serve your needs, then there can be no love. There would… read_more

जिस स्तर के तुम आदमी हो, जिस औकात की तुम्हारी ज़िंदगी है, तुम्हारी प्रेम कथा भी उसी स्तर, उसी औकात की होगी। तो ये हिमाक़त तो करना ही मत कि ज़िंदगी है दो फुट की औकात की और दुनिया को बताते घूम रहे हो कि, “मेरी आशिक़ी का आसमानी अफ़साना… read_more

प्रेम का अर्थ ये नहीं कि, “तुम मुझे खुश रखो, मैं तुम्हें खुश रखूँ।“ बिलकुल भी नहीं!

जिससे देह का सुख मिल गया, जिससे मन का सुख मिल गया, धन का सुख मिल गया उसी को कह दिया, ‘इससे प्रेम है।‘ यही है न प्रेम हमारा?

दूसरे को सुख देने… read_more

ये सब भी पिक्चरों में होता है कि वहाँ जाकर पूछा जाता है कि, “*टी और कॉफी? योर प्लेस ऑर माय प्लेस?*” (चाय या कॉफ़ी? तुम्हारे घर या मेरे घर?)

हिंदुस्तान में तो ऐसे पूछते हैं, “जात बताएगी?” फिर जैसे ही जात मिली...

”गोत्र बता, गोत्र?”

और फिर मैचिंग-मैंचिंग हो… read_more