A relation born out of loneliness will cause suffering to all || Acharya Prashant, with youth (2015)

Question: I am a slave of worldliness. I always need a company. How to get rid of this dependence?

Acharya Prashant: First of all we have to realise that what do we do to the company, and what does that company does to us?

I am feeling lonely, and I get someone to be with. What will I do to that person? I will only use that person. I will use that person to fill up my loneliness. That fellow will become a tool for me, a usable for me and a thing for me. And then if some other person can fill my loneliness better, then the other person would be better.

What is the purpose of this person’s presence in my life? What is the reason? Why has this person come in my life? Because I was feeling lonely. So loneliness is important. The person is really not important. Do you get this? The person is just a means to some end. What is the end? Getting rid of loneliness. Now, will I give freedom to this person?

I use this person. When I use somebody, then can I give him freedom? (Holding a mobile phone kept on the table) I use this, right? At this moment, if it wants to go and take a walk, will I allow it? Why will I not allow it? Because I am using it. Because I am dependent on it. When you are dependent on somebody, then the relationship can never have love. Because, in an environment of dependence, there can be no freedom.

The more you are dependent, the more dangerous you become for the person you are dependent on.